The story of Martha
BY MARCIO ALVAREZ-SILVA
It was another routine morning in Martha's life, 65 years old. She always woke up at 7:00 a.m., to prepare breakfast with the help of her husband Jonathan, 66 years old. They live very happily in their home in the suburbs. During breakfast They talk lively about the plans of that day. They talk about their two sons and grandchildren. Maybe make a visit, maybe go shopping.
During the treatment of Martha's breast cancer, the couple's routine was quite different.
Cancer had invaded their lives without warning when Martha was only 40. As she groped, she noticed a nodule in her right breast and even though she was still young, she immediately went to a doctor for the tests. Suddenly that housewife's life took an unexpected turn. Why did she have to be touched by that illness? It seemed that the world had stopped spinning and that her feet no longer touched the ground.
Martha was completely stunned when she was diagnosed with stage II breast cancer.
I met the couple who worked as volunteers in a Cancer Treatment Center. That's when Mrs. Martha told me her story and confided in me that the diagnosis of cancer was the most difficult moment of her life.
Soon after the diagnosis, the couple slept and woke up just thinking about the cancer. They were afraid about the disease, about the treatment, and about the future.
Mrs. Martha told me it was a moment of great distress. She had her twin sons who were getting ready to go to college. All this could not be happening at that moment. Her husband was working hard to pay the mortgage and the children's studies.
Everything that was important to the family became irrelevant to the disease.
Mr. Jonathan told me that the whole family gathered around the dinner table and talked a lot. All of them together would fight cancer. Mrs. Martha would not be alone in this battle.
His children went to work so that his father could accompany his mother to the Cancer Treatment Center, so Mr. Jonathan would have more time to be with his wife in the chemotherapy sessions, which started right after the mastectomy surgery.
Mr. Jonathan told me with a certain pride that he was on his wife's side throughout the treatment. This greatly strengthened their relationship. Even in the most difficult times, when Mrs. Martha had depression because she thought she wouldn't make it, or because she felt angry that she had been touched by the disease at such a young age. Her husband never left her side.
Mrs. Martha lost her right breast, which was rebuilt. She lost her hair, which grew back. In many moments she lost her optimism. However, she never lost the will to heal herself.
Mrs. Martha never considered giving up the treatment. She never missed a chemotherapy session. Always with her husband by her side, holding her hand.
Her children and husband were a key supporter of Mrs. Martha during the treatment of cancer.
After a long treatment process, and even with periodic follow-ups to monitor the disease, Ms. Martha feels renewed by the chance she had to fight cancer and win. She was the winner.
During these 25 years, the couple has periodically visited the Cancer Treatment Center. After the treatment, the couple spent their time together with the other patients, as volunteers, giving all the emotional support and telling their story of overcoming, to the patients who do not have the same luck of having a family to support them.
Her children went back to school after Mrs. Marta finished her treatment, including one of them went to medical school and works in that Cancer Treatment Center.
Meeting this couple was a very positive experience.
There are many volunteers like them, who have faced the disease and overcome it. Today they are cured and seek to give all the support to patients still in treatment, sharing their personal experiences.
Mrs. Martha has shown that it is possible to overcome cancer and has helped many patients with their life history.
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This article was published in Understanding Cancer magazine, April 22, 2019.